How to survive a technically mixed marriage.
They say that mixed marriages between geeks and non-geeks are 60 percent more likely to fail. Surprised? Well, you should be, because I completely made that up. But it is true that such a tech-unbalanced marriage can be more difficult than most, but that doesn’t mean your love of tech needs to doom the marriage.
When I met my wife, she knew that I was an engineering student, so to some degree she had fair warning that I was a tech geek three years before we got married. This is typically the case in most relationships, so once a geek and a non-geek get married at least the element of geekiness isn’t a surprise — even though the degree of geekiness might be.
Those things come out once you get married and start living together. She realizes that you tend to stay up until 3am playing video games on the weekend. He realizes that you fiddle around with a Raspberry Pi for fun at a small electronics lab in the corner of your bedroom. These are the small things that can build resentment over time, but if you’re a relationship savvy geek, there are some creative ways to use the technology you love to bring you and your spouse even closer together.
All I can say is, this works. It took me years but I finally even got Ros hooked on an iPad…
Then what you is hang on until you have kids. Kids are like the geek equivalent of a license-to-kill because, even if she thinks you are nuts to be doing something, she’ll still melt in a puddle when she sees you playing with your kids — as you are teaching them the exact same completely geekish thing…