Psych Central

According to Feiler and Kleinbaum’s research, only the most introverted people, just one percent of the population, can be expected to have networks that are representative of the population in terms of extraversion.

The rest of us view our social world through a distorted lens-a kind of carnival mirror that could create the impression that others are more social than we are. This could have profound effects on our job performance, relationships, and self-esteem. Having biased social perceptions could also hurt leaders or product developers.

“There’s a human tendency to wonder, ‘Am I normal?'” Feiler says. “And our research suggests that you’re probably more normal than you think.”

Not only is it making you feel abnormal, but there’s a very good chance it is also making you depressed and anxious…

The above-linked article is written in research lingo and is only somewhat translatable.

In English, it basically says this:

Generally, people become parts of social circles lead by a ringmaster extrovert. Those extroverts, on social networks, have finally found a way to connect with each other thus forming vast social networks of very loud and visible extroverts — which start to create a new normal against which we compare ourselves.

Thus, we sit and feel inferior and strange as it appears that everyone we know is WAY more social then we are…

In reality, 39% of Facebook users have less than 100 friends and older people usually have around 30…

And, there are actually relatively few plural relational people out there…

And, an awful lot of people are just as lonely as you are…

And, they feel they are strange too…