Sustaining Intimacy in Marriage
June 19, 2007 Comments Off on Sustaining Intimacy in Marriageintimacy in marriage:“Everyone agreed that after a full day’s work both men and women are weary
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Read moreShovel Writings: Forgiveness Response:
“Your emotions are letting you know that you are viewing yourself and/or others by your yardstick … while the gospel declares that your yardstick is the thing you have been saved from … he snapped it into little bitty pieces. Chances are that if the emotions are hanging on after seeing the situation in the reality of Christ that those emotions are being stirred up by something else. I have often discovered that my hateful feelings were not really about the person who said something derogatory to me, but in the simple fact that I had been damning myself in that particular thing for years! Once I got past the bogus notion that SOMEBODY ELSE was to blame for my feelings of inferiority I was able to see the obvious fact that my anger was toward myself! But I had for the longest time transferred the blame, and therefore, the corresponding feelings to another. And so I tried and tried in vain to forgive them (or even to see them in Christ) … and I wondered why I felt these things toward them.
And, in this, I am once again presented with the reality of life vs. death. My Father has given me something tangible to behold and to declare that THIS TOO has been removed by Christ! This is His Spirit witnessing with my spirit and it is saturated with life.”
This is an excellent point about the real source of anger towards others. I pray we stop measuring one another and ourselves.
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Read moreShovel Writings: Reality or Psycho-Babble?:
“We are afraid of fear itself. We are afraid because of so many verses taken out of context and used to beat us up with until our hearts are bloody and raw and in agony, and then we fear even more.
It is a very good thing to be secure in our New Identity and realize that MOST fears come from the INsecurity we have been wallowing in and perpetuating for sooo long … fears based on deception and lies that we have fed ourselves and each other.
The GOOD NEWS of CHRIST, which is also OUR GOOD NEWS because of HIM and our NEW IDENTITY in HIM, is the only thing that soothes the pain of so much insanity and insecurity that we endure.
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This fear feeling is the key difficulty in loving others and God. It is not about the other person at all. Most deep conflicts are not about another. If we do not surrender fears, these feelings reinterpret what we hear. Others feel unloved by distrust. We in turn feel guilty/alone or vice versa. The only solution is consciously resting in Jesus and our new identity on Him based on the true Good News. The basis of our fears is Finished as well.
Read moreShovel Writings: The Peace of Christ – 2:
“ Now, was Paul
teaching us to learn to distinguish the feelings of the Spirit from the
feelings of the world? Was he then asking us to trust those
feelings of peace we get from the Spirit? Is this what it means
to be ”led by the Spirit“? It may be the popular teaching, but if
Paul TAUGHT it where did he WRITE it? I read his letters and I
see someone who would never establish a practice of making
decisions based on a relative sense of ”peace“. Instead, he
constantly insisted on basing all things on what Christ had ALREADY
accomplished. ”
This is an excellent article clearly stating that God is leading through His Spirit 24/7. (ROM 8:14) This is a great article for married couples who sometimes have difficulty completely trusting their spouse is in “God’s will.”
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