• Maybe clothes do make a man… sick?
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    The Good Men Project

    If clothes aren’t physically or emotionally healthy, why are we horrified when people don’t wear them? Show a man with a gun… it’s called action. Show a man with a dick… it’s called indecent.

    There’s something wrong with the way Americans have come to accept almost every aspect of the human condition except for the most natural one. We’ve accepted guns, drugs and violence, yet refuse to accept bare breasts and genitalia.

    Put a man killing and raping women in a movie and it may go on to win an Oscar. Put a naked woman on the screen, and it won’t be allowed a nomination (take “Blue is the Warmest Color? for example).

    We’ve become so desensitized to everything, but the one thing that makes us human. We’ve come to accept almost every negative aspect of human nature, yet refuse to condone the most natural state a human being can be — the nude.

    Ok, so, the above linked rant is way too much fun to ignore — it simply begged to be posted. Just read it…

    But, some of the content is actually quite scholarly and factual.

    In particular, the linked literature summary on the impact of social nudity upon children is both really well done and serious food for thought.

    (Though, I highly doubt it will do anything to quell the nearly religious fervor with which so many sectors of our society attack even the simple concept of a clothing optional beach…)

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  • The secret to really turning a woman on!
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    Brain Blogger

    By examining results from these three sexual fantasy measures, the three Canada-based researchers that published the study found;

    ‘direct evidence that object of desire themes are linked more to women’s sexuality than they are to men’s.’

    How integral object of desire self-consciousness (ODSC) is to a woman’s sexual relationships is likely to vary, being largely dependent on how her sexual self-schemas, that is, her cognitive representation of her sexual self, represents her as an object of desire.

    As the lead author of the study explains:

    ‘If a women is schematic [for ODSC], and she does perceive that she is an object of desire within her relationship, then her level of sexual desire and sexual activity may be fairly high. If, on the other hand, she does not feel a sense of her own desirability or being an object of desire, she may have very little sexual desire.’

    While for some women, being an object of desire really turns them on, should we play on this objectification of women to get into women’s fantasies, minds and dare we say, their pants? Well, socioculturally speaking we already do so.

    The therapeutic community has been saying for years that one of the deepest desires of the feminine relational soul is to feel both desired and desirable on every level (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual) and that the desire to feel such is, at least at some level, foundational to a woman’s sense of romantic love.

    So, on one level, the above linked is hardly news — though, the use of, “Desire,” as a synonym for, “Objectification,” the politically correct tip-toeing and the glaring level of hand-wringing in the full article are all entertaining evidence of how uncomfortable that reality makes so many ideologues…

    On another level, we now have hard and fast numbers to prove that assertion and to call into question the foundation of so much of feminist ideology about the dance of human sexuality and, perhaps, to even seriously question the impact of regimented clothing policies on developing adolescent’s sexualities.

    We finally have the ability to stand up and call the God-designed dance of desire, attraction, seduction and enticement for what it is: Beautiful.

    But, really, no one who has any interest in exercising shame, fear or guilt based control of sexuality is going to be at all happy with this. And, it almost goes without saying that the Evangelical right/moral purity/sex is evil/it’s-a-woman’s-fault-I-feel-tempted set hasn’t even weighed in yet…

    When they do, make popcorn!!!


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  • YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!
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    Scientific studies show sleeping naked has enough health benefits to make people think twice before reaching for those coveted pajama shorts or fuzzy flannels ever again.

    According to several research efforts, sleeping naked has health benefits ranging from the prevention of diabetes to lowered belly fat; shedding clothes before sleep can also increase the body’s anti-aging hormones, help you sleep deeper and longer, decrease vaginal bacteria and improve sex lives.

    Turns out, 90 percent of Americans – the amount reporting to never sleep in the nude – are really missing out.

    The full article expands on:

    Better and Deeper Sleep

    Increased Anti-Aging Hormones

    Less Stress, Less Fat

    Lowered Risk of Diabetes

    Healthier Parts

    Improved Sex

    As much as I hate to link to what is nothing more then a source article spam, the above linked is very true, really well written and so worth reading.

    But they missed one: Not having massive fights in front of your therapist about his/her, “Flannel armor.”

    (Yes, really. I’ve seen that one more times then I can count…)

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  • Can we start our new year with some brain pushups?
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    Dr Shamay-Tsoory further explained that “understanding other people’s state of mind and emotions is related to our ability to understand sarcasm.”

    Sarcasm seems to exercise the brain more than sincere statements do. Scientists who have monitored the electrical activity of the brains of test subjects exposed to sarcastic statements have found that brains have to work harder to understand sarcasm. There is actually a three-stage neural pathway in our brains that enables us to understand irony.

    First the language center in the brain’s left hemisphere interprets the literal meaning of words. Next, the frontal lobes and right hemisphere process the speaker’s intention and check for contradictions between the literal meaning and the social and emotional context. Finally, the right ventromedial prefrontal cortex – our sarcasm meter – makes a decision based on our social and emotional knowledge of the situation.

    As Richard Chin of Smithsonian Magazine explains, sarcasm requires a series of “mental gymnastics.? Sarcastic, satirical or ironic statements all compel the brain to “think beyond the literal meaning of the words and understand that the speaker may be thinking of something entirely different.? Studies have shown that exposure to sarcasm enhances creative problem solving. Thus, over time, this increased bulk of cognitive-expenditure doesn’t go to waste. Chin describes active sarcasm use as a means of “mental exercise.? Just like training your muscles, if you do 50 push-ups a day, over time, your arms are bound to be toned. So sarcasm, as a form of “mental exercise,? or “mental gymnastics” functions the same way. Over time, that “extra work? brought forth by sarcasm leaves our brains toned, too.

    Just think of all of the genius children our education system could be turning out if they would just stop punishing them for their, “High Intelligences.”


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  • Apparently, you’re just not that strange…
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    The study, published last Friday in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, surveyed about 1,500 adults who rated, from a list of 55 sexual fantasies, which fantasies they were most and least interested in. The researchers found that only two sexual fantasies (bestiality and pedophilia) were statistically rare (where 2.3 percent or less of respondents included it as a fantasy) and nine were considered statistically unusual (15.9 percent or less). Urinating on one’s partner and wearing clothing associated with the opposite sex were among those considered unusual. At the opposite end of the spectrum, there were five fantasies — wanting to feel romantic emotions during sex, oral sex, having sex in an unusual or romantic place, and having a special atmosphere — considered typical (more than 84 percent of the responses). The remaining 39 were common (more than 50 percent of the responses), meaning 44 out of the 55 sexual fantasies were experienced by at least half the people polled. These included dominance and submission, as well as bondage, group sex, and anal sex. The study authors noted that calling a sexual fantasy “unusual? might not be correct anymore given how common the majority of them were.

    The above linked study really is not all that interesting — what’s interesting is that it had to take until 2014 to finally get real researchers to do what magazines and other unofficial pollsters have been doing for decades:

    To just admit people have had sexual fantasies and ask them what they were…

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  • On second thought, you really DO need a drink…
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    Science Daily

    Researchers from the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston, University of Kentucky, and University of Maryland found that for people 60 and older who do not have dementia, light alcohol consumption during late life is associated with higher episodic memory — the ability to recall memories of events.

    Moderate alcohol consumption was also linked with a larger volume in the hippocampus, a brain region critical for episodic memory. The relationship between light alcohol consumption and episodic memory goes away if hippocampal volume is factored in, providing new evidence that hippocampal functioning is the critical factor in these improvements. These findings were detailed in the American Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease and Other Dementias.

    This pretty much stands on its own.

    Along with the authors final caveat…

    …having five or more alcoholic beverages during a single drinking occasion is known to be harmful to the brain.

    (Other studies have suggested it’s actually dangerous at any more then two and it kills almost 80,000 people/yr in the Americas…)

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  • Need a great anti-depressant?
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    Capital FM

    But, did you know sperm comprises only about 3 percent of semen? The rest is seminal fluid: mostly water, plus about 50 compounds: sugar, immunosuppressants and oddly, two female sex hormones, and many mood-elevating compounds: endorphins, estrone, prolactin, oxytocin, thyrotrpin-releasing hormone, and serotonin.

    Compared with women who “always? or “usually? used condoms, those who “never? did, which means their vaginas were exposed to semen, showed significantly better mood and fewer depressive symptoms. In addition, compared to women who had no intercourse at all, the semen-exposed women showed more elevated mood and less depression.

    Researchers also found among women who “always? or “usually? used condoms, which meant their vaginal tissue never came in contact with semen, about 20 percent reported suicidal thoughts, but among those who used condoms only “sometimes,? the figure was much lower, 7 percent, and among women who “never? used condoms, only 5 percent reported suicidal thoughts. So it appears quite possible that the antidepressants in semen might have a real mood-elevating effect.

    Ok, yes, correlation does not even remotely prove causation. (And these guys barely even have a decent correlation happening here…)

    But, more and more of this sort of research is happening and it’s starting to go beyond this sort of sillyness into actual understanding of the powerful impact genital secretions, pheromones and vaginal fluid/semen have on the male and female body.

    And, if that weren’t strange enough, also growing is our understanding of the impact an ingestion of semen (via oral sex) has on female physiology in terms of its ability to control morning sickness via successful maternal immunosuppression.

    It’s beginning to appear that an act of unprotected sexual intercourse is actually a marvel of chemical communication that accomplishes something far more complex then the simple experience of climax. Now we just need to figure out what, exactly, it’s all doing…

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  • Pull and Pray?
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    Kevin MD

    No one is going to accuse either of these characters of being subtle — ever…

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  • Drinking and exercising?
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    By itself, drinking wine did not appreciably affect cholesterol, blood glucose, triglycerides, or levels of inflammatory markers like C-reactive protein. It also did not appreciably damage people’s livers during the year, at least, based on liver-function tests.

    But then Táborský and company ran a more specific analysis that looked at people who exercised. Among those who worked out twice per week and drank wine, there was significant improvement in cholesterol levels (increased HDL and decreased LDL) after a year of wine—red or white, no matter.

    “Our current study shows that the combination of moderate wine drinking plus regular exercise improves markers of atherosclerosis,” said Táborský, “suggesting that this combination is protective against cardiovascular disease.”

    The gym I worked out at through the last half of my undergrad had the entire front half of it converted into a bar.

    Apparently that wasn’t such a bad idea after all…


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  • Abstinence after marriage?
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    After a few years, the researcher checked back to find fourteen of the men had since gotten married. She discovered that their lifetimes of fighting sexual desire conditioned them to regard sex as taboo even after the knot had been tied, causing poor communication in the bedroom.

    “After marriage, the church culture assumes that couples become each other’s support, regardless of the issue at hand,? Diefendorf said. “There’s little support in figuring out sexuality in married life, and these men don’t know how to talk to their wives about it.?

    One of the men said, “For me to come home from work and say, ‘hey, did you like it last time?’ I mean that would be – that would be such a weird question for me to ask.?

    After getting hitched, the men also struggled to discuss sex with one another for fear of disrespecting their wives.

    “While the whole point of these support groups is to honor sex in marriage, these men have gotten so used to thinking about sex as something negative that they bring those concerns with them to the marriage bed,? Deifendorf said. “Once they’re married, these men struggle to manage those concerns in the absence of the supportive community they once benefited from.?

    Ok, as funny as these guys and ESPECIALLY their sequel are, it turns out they are not quite on the mark…

    Turns out, sex does happen after marriage — it’s just so shame based no one can talk about it or make it better.

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