Introducing The First Stage of Therapy with Women with Same-Sex Attraction: Securing the Foundation:

“Attunement is the nonverbal communication such as eye contact, facial expression, voice modulation, gestures, and timing and touch, [1] common to the relationship between a young child and mother, ‘in which both are sharing effect and focused attention on each other in a way such that the child’s enjoyable experiences are amplified and his/her stressful experiences are reduced and contained’ [2] (emphasis mine).”

This is a great article on the importance of mirroring empathy and acknowledging the difficulty in sharing/breaches of disconnect. In order to be with/love another, we need to take a depth breath and rest with them at the moment.