Do you know what to ask a narcissist?
But researchers have recently found that, if you just want an overall view of narcissism, you can replace that 40-question inventory with one question: “How narcissistic are you?”
The key insight is that people who are narcissists aren’t embarrassed by it, so they don’t hold back on saying so. People who are not narcissistic would feel ashamed to be seen as such, so they rate themselves low on the scale.
“People who are narcissists are almost proud of the fact. You can ask them directly because they don’t see narcissism as a negative quality — they believe they are superior to other people and are fine with saying that publicly,” says Brad Bushman, one of the study’s co-authors.
There’s an entire industry out there diagnosing everyone’s husband or wife with all sorts of personality disorders — and then encouraging them to leave said, “Mentally ill,” spouse. No diagnosis is more popular then Narcissistic Personality Disorder…
Huge lists of symptoms are compiled and armchair diagnostic skills are brought to bear on such — right before said (loudly protesting/denying) spouse is dragged into a counsellor’s office to have those conclusions validated.
Shortly thereafter, the other spouse generally ends up angry at a therapist who refuses to accept, “Reality…”