What really happens when men don’t talk?
December 6, 2013 Comments Off on What really happens when men don’t talk?

Psych Central

I suggest that one overlooked reason that men find themselves in the midst of an extramarital affair is that men don’t talk!

* Thanks to their biology, neurophysiology, culture and psychology most men rarely express worries, emotions, sexual issues or physical concerns about themselves, to friends, family, or colleagues, much less to their partners.
* As the show, ” Married Men Don’t Talk” suggests, men will talk about everything from kids to sports but they don’t discuss marital issues.
* In their research on men who stopped seeking sex from their partners, Bob and Susan Berkowitz, report that 44% said they were furious, felt criticized and insignificant in their marriage; but would not or could not talk about it with their partners.
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Emotional regulation
November 28, 2013 Comments Off on Emotional regulation

PubMed

Abstract:
Emotion regulation is generally thought to be a critical ingredient for successful interpersonal relationships. Ironically, few studies have investigated the link between how well spouses regulate emotion and how satisfied they are with their marriages.
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The biology of monogamy
November 26, 2013 Comments Off on The biology of monogamy

ScienceMag

When the men received a nasal spray of oxytocin-which is released by the body during sexual arousal-they rated their partners more highly but not the other women. MRI scans show that after an oxytocin dose, areas of the brain associated with rewards, which also drive drug addiction, were more active when the men saw pictures of their partner, the researchers report online today in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
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How wise people think.
November 24, 2013 Comments Off on How wise people think.

Dailygood

Wisdom is the ability to make sound judgments and choices based on experience. It’s a virtue according to every great philosophical and religious tradition, from Aristotle to Confucius and Christianity to Judaism, Islam to Buddhism, and Taoism to Hinduism. According to the book From Smart to Wise, wisdom distinguishes great leaders from the rest of the pack. So what does it take to cultivate wisdom?
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How to send people to their deaths to fight for a cause.
November 8, 2013 Comments Off on How to send people to their deaths to fight for a cause.

Berkeley

These are two different ways of being cooperative-cooperation on different terms. A lot of our political disputes are about individualism versus collectivism: To what extent are we each responsible for ourselves, and to what extent are we all in this together? We see this, for example, in issues such as the health care debate and climate change.
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It’s not just a kiss.
November 4, 2013 Comments Off on It’s not just a kiss.

New York Times:

The participants generally rated kissing in casual relationships as most important before sex, less important during sex, even less important after sex and least important “at other times.? (To clarify: researchers defined kissing as “on the lips or open-mouth (French).?)

Past research has shown that three types of people tend to be choosier in selecting mates who are genetically fit and compatible:
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The family that prays together…?
November 2, 2013 Comments Off on The family that prays together…?

Salon

I was questioned earlier this week over a comment I made to a client that going to church alone would do little to protect marriage and that divorce rates were higher in the pews. That statement was both desperately right – and yet, the more I look at it, somewhat wrong.

Now that I’ve done the research, I may as well post it…
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False grace?
October 3, 2013 Comments Off on False grace?

Phil Drysdale

The simple formula to spotting all false movements:

I know personally how hard it can be to spot these movements – I’ve been involved in all 3 at some point in my life to pretty serious degrees! I even preached some of this stuff!

These are just what I believe to be 3 of the biggest false movements in the church, there are many, many more though.
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The real cost of your cute little bundle of joy.
October 1, 2013 Comments Off on The real cost of your cute little bundle of joy.

Yet even such huge figures are “woefully insufficient,�? says John Ward, a Kansas economist who consults on economic damages for legal disputes, including wrongful death cases involving children. For one thing, Ward says, most of these analyses do not take into account societal costs, such as the property taxes all homeowners pay to support public education.
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Real healing for PTSD
September 26, 2013 Comments Off on Real healing for PTSD

The Guardian

Fury, paranoia, hypervigilance, overreaction to a perceived threat – all are common in a traumatized person. The psychologist who helped me to get better characterized the condition thus: imagine your memories are a conveyor belt of cardboard boxes heading towards a final point, where they are processed. But if something life-threatening disrupts that process, the box memories get stuck, trapped in the amygdala, that bit of the brain that triggers your fight or flight survival impulse.
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Session Notes

What really happens when men don’t talk?

Emotional regulation

The biology of monogamy

How wise people think.

How to send people to their deaths to fight for a cause.

It’s not just a kiss.

The family that prays together…?

False grace?

The real cost of your cute little bundle of joy.

Real healing for PTSD

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