We at Henze & Associates have probably been asked a variant of that question a hundred times since the COVID-19 crisis began – by people from all walks of life who are seeking Calgary Christian Counselling.Read more
For most of us, it seems like our safe little world here in Calgary has turned upside down. One moment, we were all going along – living our regular lives, going to work, enjoying time with friends and family, dating, going to the gym and the theatre.Read more
So much of the psychological and medical community today speaks of, “Managing your anxiety and depression.” Think about that phrase for a moment. The implication of it is that, if you struggle with the spiral of anxiety and depression discussed in the last article, you are destined to continue to do so – permanently.Read more
Depression and anxiety. Read nearly any article on either subject written in the last decade and you will very quickly notice that the authors usually lump those two terms together.
Throw that question at the majority of mental health professionals who habitually, even daily toss those terms out, and you will learn little. The bulk of them will have to admit they use those terms together simply because everyone else does.Read more
They could include eating junk food, biting your nails, chewing your hair, picking at skin, scratching, shopping, cracking knuckles or even things like chewing on your pen – but we all have one. Usually, it’s maddening to us and, often, to those around us…Read more
When we receive referrals from the medical community of clients struggling with anxiety or panic disorder, one of the most common requests we get is for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. It’s highly popular — though I doubt if the majority of those who refer for such have any idea what they are suggesting.Read more
As many as 75% of all pregnancies result in a miscarriage before the woman knows she is pregnant. Once the woman has tested positive on a pregnancy test, there is still a one in five chance of an early miscarriage. Later in the pregnancy, while quite uncommon, miscarriage still occurs about 1% of the time though, for some women, it may repeatedly occur.Read more
A life of feeling stalked.
Imagine what it would be like to live life constantly expecting a crisis to happen – always on the alert for some kind of threat or emotional trauma? What it would feel like to constantly scan the horizon seeking for sick people or germs – forever worried that they would make you sick or even just being around those people would cause you to feel sick?
Then imagine that fear grew until those uncontrollable worries would begin happening in the middle of the night. You wake, dizzy, shaking, soaked with sweat, your heart racing, chest so tense you can’t get a full breath of air, feeling like your throat has closed off and you are about to have a heart attack. Soon, you are even afraid to go to sleep.
Now, imagine it has gone on for so long that all of your energy reserves are gone, the fatigue has become crushing and you feel like you are on the edge of completely burning out. Sometimes, you wonder if you are loosing your mind — other times you are sure you are.
That’s anxiety and panic disorder…
We have just added yet another permanent article to our site collection on basic practices for keeping stress, anxiety and panic at tolerable levels.
Stress, anxiety and panic are difficult areas for me to do S.E.O. on and not get really frustrated about. The vast majority of what passes as treatment for such is basically designed to keep people in therapy forever by only treating the symptoms. Yet, so much is written in that vein that Google doesn’t consider you a real site or to really be offering the service unless it sees a bunch of keywords that everyone else is using.
What I’d like to be writing about is how you fundamentally transform how the human heart sees itself, unlearn complex trauma, grieve pain and deal with the neuro-linguistic tasks of bringing the unconscious to conscious awareness – and then alter and re-submerge such. I’d like it to focus on the relational aspects of living life in hiding and address the religious/legalistic roots of guilt and shame based creation of anxiety. But, that just doesn’t give the Google Bots warm fuzzies…
So, the above linked is the best summary I can create of how you do nothing more then put a bandaid on stress, anxiety and panic — in hopes that it can maybe draw some people into longing for much more then a bandaid…Read more
Our emotions are powerful, born of countless unknowable forces and planted by childhood events we may never consciously recall. For many of us, they exist as shrouded mysterious urges we mostly focus on managing and suppressing.
But, it doesn’t have to be that way. They are in us for a reason: to be a dashboard which displays the state of our entire being. Learning to listen to and name the read-outs on that dashboard is essential to caring for ourselves and loving other people.
Here is a guided path towards understanding what our hearts are telling us:
How to identify what kind of emotion you are feeling in seven easy steps.
Tune into the prompting event that caused the emotion and consider what sort of an event it is.
The nature of an event is a powerful clue as to the impact it may be having on you — though other factors could cause you to respond in a completely different way.
Next, note your interpretation of the event.
Are you seeing it as others around you are or are you looking at it through very different lenses? If different, then how and why?
Note any physical sensations you encountered during the event.
Did you shake, get hot, feel flushed, have trouble looking at the other person, experience a change in sexual response, feel your heart race, experience your body relaxing? Our bodies can sometimes tell us what we are feeling even before our minds can apprehend such. What do those physiological responses tell you?
Note your body language.
Did you find yourself clenching your fists, hugging yourself, crossing your arms, turning your body towards/away, find yourself looking down/away/glaring at the other or standing erect/slumping? What do those physical actions tell you that you were unconsciously trying to accomplish?
Next, attend to any sort of action urge you experienced during the event.
Did you want to run away or hide, hit the other person, explode and yell, hurt the other person, hug the other person or want to make love to/have sex with the other person? What sort of internal dynamics do those urges imply?
Examine any action you actually took.
Was it the same or different from #5? (If it was the same, this step is likely redundant. If it was different, then is there an ambivalence or two conflictual emotions present?)
Now, based on previous items above, use the below chart to precisely identify the emotion name(s) you are experiencing.
The sooner we figure out what we are feeling, the earlier into an interaction we are able to draw from the wisdom our hearts have to bring to any interchange.
If that wisdom becomes effectively blended with our mind and our other senses, we gain the ability to choose how we engage others instead of finding ourselves driven in irrational ways.
And, sometimes, we then gain the ability to put our responses aside for a moment, step out of ourselves and then experience what the other person is experiencing.
That’s where compassion and empathy start and senseless wars end.Read more
In the years since, members of the medical community have continued to argue that MDMA doesn’t belong in Schedule I. Some recent studies, also approved by the DEA, have found that the drug could be an effective treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder when administered under proper supervision.
The latest study is being sponsored by the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies, a nonprofit organization that funds research on beneficial uses of psychedelics and marijuana. MAPS sees the DEA’s approval as a sign of change.
“The smooth process of regulatory approval for this study indicates that stigma is no longer standing in the way of regulatory approval for research into the therapeutic uses of MDMA and other psychedelics,” Brad Burge, communications director for MAPS, told The Huffington Post. “Now, the main challenge has become finding the funding necessary to complete the research. As these studies move forward, we’ll start seeing support for psychedelic research as an opportunity, rather than a risk.”
MAPS said that 18 patients diagnosed with life-threatening illnesses will undergo MDMA-assisted psychotherapy sessions under the supervision of Dr. Philip Wolfson, the study’s principal investigator, at an office in Marin, California. The year-and-a-half study will test the drug’s potential applications for treating anxiety and stress disorders related to the end of life. MAPS will begin recruiting subjects as soon as final preparations are made, hopefully within about two months, Burge said.
This pretty much stands on its own as yet another example of government finally waking up and realizing that the war on drugs has also (perhaps even mostly) been a war against medical research and treatment.
This particular drug is insanely potent giving the therapist close to God-like powers to define the person but, in some cases, the alternative may be life long torment.
Even if it is found to be too potent though, the above willingness to finally allow science to continue is still a breath of fresh air.Read more