• Do the emotional paper-cuts hurt the worst?
    Do the emotional paper-cuts hurt the worst?
    Comments Off on Do the emotional paper-cuts hurt the worst?


    When truly bad things happen, they cross a threshold, triggering mechanisms that help us to recover. To use one of Gilbert’s examples: if a woman discovers her husband has been having an affair, she may draw on all her powers of rationalization, convincing herself it was something he had to get out of his system, or that it’s a crisis from which they’ll emerge stronger. By contrast, if his only fault is leaving dirty dishes in the sink, her cognitive defences won’t kick in. So her anger at the lesser failing may bubble longer.

    Read more
  • What defines a successful marriage?
    What defines a successful marriage?
    4 Comments on What defines a successful marriage?

    Business Insider

    To err is human, Gottman says, but to repair is divine.

    “The thing that all really good marriages and love relationships have in common is that they communicate to their partner a model that when you’re upset, I listen,” he says. “The world stops, and I listen. And we repair things. We don’t let things go. We don’t leave one another in pain. We talk about it, and we repair it.”

    That’s where gentleness comes in.

    Read more
  • Understanding semi-permanent birth control
    Understanding semi-permanent birth control
    Comments Off on Understanding semi-permanent birth control

    Huffington Post

    If you’ve considered birth control over the past few years, chances are you’ve had at least one friend wax enthusiastic about an intrauterine device, or IUD. The method, which is the most effective reversible form of contraception on the market, has grown exponentially in popularity over the last decade, despite low national rates.

    There’s now even a small sub-genre of personal essay related to choosing IUDs, ranging from testimonials to tales of medical misadventure.

    Read more
  • YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!
    YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!
    1 Comment on YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!


    Scientific studies show sleeping naked has enough health benefits to make people think twice before reaching for those coveted pyjama shorts or fuzzy flannels ever again.

    According to several research efforts, sleeping naked has health benefits ranging from the prevention of diabetes to lowered belly fat; shedding clothes before sleep can also increase the body’s anti-ageing hormones, help you sleep deeper and longer, decrease vaginal bacteria and improve sex lives.

    Read more
  • Is someone you love in need of an intervention?
    Is someone you love in need of an intervention?
    Comments Off on Is someone you love in need of an intervention?

    Psychology Today

    Confrontational methods are practiced nowhere else in the world-for good reason. Interventions are deeply humiliating. They imply a moral and psychological superiority among those staging the intervention. They remove a person’s autonomy, and removing the opportunity for choice is thoroughly dehumanizing. They deflate a person’s already deflated sense of self. Further, interventions also induce shame, guilt-feelings that actually reduce the likelihood of change.

    Read more
  • How to have the best sex ever!
    How to have the best sex ever!
    Comments Off on How to have the best sex ever!

    Psych Central

    less than five percent of singles between the ages of 25 and 59 have sex two to three times a week, while a quarter of married folks are beating the single record five times over. A whopping 61 percent of singles reported that they hadn’t had sex within the past year, compared with 18 percent of married people.

    The belief that singles have more and better sex than marrieds has become a cultural myth that researchers and sociologists are finding to be untrue and coming up with some hard evidence to substantiate this claim.

    Read more
  • Are we training our grads NOT to think?
    Are we training our grads NOT to think?
    Comments Off on Are we training our grads NOT to think?


    …the crisis in American education may be more than a matter of sliding rankings on world educational performance scales.

    Our kids learn within a system of education devised for a world that increasingly does not exist.

    To become a chef, a lawyer, a philosopher or an engineer, has always been a matter of learning what these professionals do, how and why they do it, and some set of general facts that more or less describe our societies and our selves.

    Read more
  • Does your brain need training?
    Does your brain need training?
    3 Comments on Does your brain need training?

    Psych Central

    In a society that glorifies brain-related companies such as Lumosity, it’s important to note that while their goal is moral, their process is inherently flawed.

    As an Integrative Neuroscience major at Binghamton University, I can understand why parents and children alike fall for the tempting ways to enhance your brain’s functioning. After all, it’s no secret that as we begin to age, our memory and other senses begin to fade gradually and sometimes rather abruptly.

    Read more
  • Can you MAKE someone fall in love with you?
    Can you MAKE someone fall in love with you?
    Comments Off on Can you MAKE someone fall in love with you?


    In 2010 the psychological researcher Arthur Aron (and four other authors) released the results of their study which asked if an intimate connection between two newly acquainted people could be created simply by causing them to become incrementally more vulnerable with each other by way of answering a series of thirty-six increasingly personal questions.

    It finally got noticed by the mainstream media

    Read more
  • Tired of procrastinating?
    Tired of procrastinating?
    Comments Off on Tired of procrastinating?


    Procrastinators, take note: If you’ve tried building self-discipline and you’re still putting things off, maybe you need to try something different. One new approach: Check your mood.

    Often, procrastinators attempt to avoid the anxiety or worry aroused by a tough task with activities aimed at repairing their mood, such as checking Facebook or taking a nap. But the pattern, which researchers call “giving in to feel good,” makes procrastinators feel worse later when they face the consequences of missing a deadline or making a hasty, last-minute effort, says Timothy Pychyl (rhymes with Mitchell), an associate professor of psychology at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada, and a researcher on the topic.

    Read more
Can't find what you're looking for? Search Here!

Contact us

403 819 3545 (Text message capable)

info@henze-associates.com (iMessage capable)

403 819 3545, (Toll Free) 1 877 922 3143

Please email or text for information or bookings.

Back to Top