January 2015 - Session NotesSession Notes

Do the emotional paper-cuts hurt the worst?
January 31, 2015 Comments Off on Do the emotional paper-cuts hurt the worst?

Guardian

When truly bad things happen, they cross a threshold, triggering mechanisms that help us to recover. To use one of Gilbert’s examples: if a woman discovers her husband has been having an affair, she may draw on all her powers of rationalization, convincing herself it was something he had to get out of his system, or that it’s a crisis from which they’ll emerge stronger. By contrast, if his only fault is leaving dirty dishes in the sink, her cognitive defences won’t kick in. So her anger at the lesser failing may bubble longer.
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What defines a successful marriage?
January 29, 2015 4 Comments on What defines a successful marriage?

Business Insider

To err is human, Gottman says, but to repair is divine.

“The thing that all really good marriages and love relationships have in common is that they communicate to their partner a model that when you’re upset, I listen,” he says. “The world stops, and I listen. And we repair things. We don’t let things go. We don’t leave one another in pain. We talk about it, and we repair it.”

That’s where gentleness comes in.
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Understanding semi-permanent birth control
January 28, 2015 Comments Off on Understanding semi-permanent birth control

Huffington Post

If you’ve considered birth control over the past few years, chances are you’ve had at least one friend wax enthusiastic about an intrauterine device, or IUD. The method, which is the most effective reversible form of contraception on the market, has grown exponentially in popularity over the last decade, despite low national rates.

There’s now even a small sub-genre of personal essay related to choosing IUDs, ranging from testimonials to tales of medical misadventure.
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YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!
January 27, 2015 1 Comment on YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!!

Diply

Scientific studies show sleeping naked has enough health benefits to make people think twice before reaching for those coveted pyjama shorts or fuzzy flannels ever again.

According to several research efforts, sleeping naked has health benefits ranging from the prevention of diabetes to lowered belly fat; shedding clothes before sleep can also increase the body’s anti-ageing hormones, help you sleep deeper and longer, decrease vaginal bacteria and improve sex lives.
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Is someone you love in need of an intervention?
January 26, 2015 Comments Off on Is someone you love in need of an intervention?

Psychology Today

Confrontational methods are practiced nowhere else in the world-for good reason. Interventions are deeply humiliating. They imply a moral and psychological superiority among those staging the intervention. They remove a person’s autonomy, and removing the opportunity for choice is thoroughly dehumanizing. They deflate a person’s already deflated sense of self. Further, interventions also induce shame, guilt-feelings that actually reduce the likelihood of change.
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How to have the best sex ever!
January 25, 2015 Comments Off on How to have the best sex ever!

Psych Central

less than five percent of singles between the ages of 25 and 59 have sex two to three times a week, while a quarter of married folks are beating the single record five times over. A whopping 61 percent of singles reported that they hadn’t had sex within the past year, compared with 18 percent of married people.

The belief that singles have more and better sex than marrieds has become a cultural myth that researchers and sociologists are finding to be untrue and coming up with some hard evidence to substantiate this claim.
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Are we training our grads NOT to think?
January 22, 2015 Comments Off on Are we training our grads NOT to think?

Wired –

…the crisis in American education may be more than a matter of sliding rankings on world educational performance scales.

Our kids learn within a system of education devised for a world that increasingly does not exist.

To become a chef, a lawyer, a philosopher or an engineer, has always been a matter of learning what these professionals do, how and why they do it, and some set of general facts that more or less describe our societies and our selves.
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Does your brain need training?
January 21, 2015 3 Comments on Does your brain need training?

Psych Central

In a society that glorifies brain-related companies such as Lumosity, it’s important to note that while their goal is moral, their process is inherently flawed.

As an Integrative Neuroscience major at Binghamton University, I can understand why parents and children alike fall for the tempting ways to enhance your brain’s functioning. After all, it’s no secret that as we begin to age, our memory and other senses begin to fade gradually and sometimes rather abruptly.
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Can you MAKE someone fall in love with you?
January 19, 2015 Comments Off on Can you MAKE someone fall in love with you?

Stafforini

In 2010 the psychological researcher Arthur Aron (and four other authors) released the results of their study which asked if an intimate connection between two newly acquainted people could be created simply by causing them to become incrementally more vulnerable with each other by way of answering a series of thirty-six increasingly personal questions.

It finally got noticed by the mainstream media
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Tired of procrastinating?
January 17, 2015 Comments Off on Tired of procrastinating?

WSJ

Procrastinators, take note: If you’ve tried building self-discipline and you’re still putting things off, maybe you need to try something different. One new approach: Check your mood.

Often, procrastinators attempt to avoid the anxiety or worry aroused by a tough task with activities aimed at repairing their mood, such as checking Facebook or taking a nap. But the pattern, which researchers call “giving in to feel good,” makes procrastinators feel worse later when they face the consequences of missing a deadline or making a hasty, last-minute effort, says Timothy Pychyl (rhymes with Mitchell), an associate professor of psychology at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada, and a researcher on the topic.
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